Monday Mournings – It’s Finally Final

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After over 4-1/2 torturous years, my divorce was finalized on December 3rd! As awful as a divorce is, I am so relieved to have it over… it truly was my Christmas Wish come true. Christopher did not make the judge happy, so I got everything I asked for and then some. I was absolutely shocked at how well the final day in court went. Now, once things settle down and everything starts flowing according to the court order, Rory and I should be doing a little better.

The judge also told Christopher that he had just 2 weeks to get his crap stuff off my property, or else I could deal with it as I wish. His deadline is December 17th… and guess who still has a boatload of stuff here. I have been so busy trying to clean things out and get all of his stuff together in one place. That way he is here for the shortest amount of time possible.

It also seems that Rory was approved for SSI. This is fantastic news as well. We do not have an official approval letter yet from Social Security, but she has a payment in the bank!

Rory’s final (I hope) IEP for school was done on December 6th. Everything stayed the same, which is exactly what we wanted. Woo Hoo!

The first week of December was AWESOME! The second week found Rory picked for two solos in the school Christmas Concert. She is so excited. The concert falls on mine and Luke’s 2-year anniversary of dating.

It’s a happy, happy Christmas! I hope your December is happy too.

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Monday Mournings – Busy Week Ahead…

My Case Was Taken!

“I try to take one day at a time,
but sometimes several days attack me at once.”
~Jennifer Yane

So, the good news is that an attorney signed up to take my case at the Public Law Center. I will now have help with the divorce proceedings. The bad news is that he won’t be able to be in court with me next month due to a previously scheduled court date. Nevertheless, I am thrilled to get some help. I meet with him today…wish me luck.

I absolutely despise all of the paperwork, phone calls, meetings, document providing, and STRESS in my life right now! Dealing with government agencies is not easy, but at the moment, it is vital for Rory and me. I just hope and pray that this attorney will truly be able to help us traverse the system to our best benefit.

I received even more forms to fill out for Rory’s SSI application… does this stuff never end? It’s as if they know when you start getting the tiniest feeling of accomplishment in the process, and they take the opportunity to slam you with more work that you need to decipher, compile, complete, and return… usually on your own non-existent dime. With the advances of the internet, you would think some of the process would be easier. At least there should be less running around to do, especially with today’s gas prices. Keep me off the roads. Let me surf along the internets of the world wide web… PLEASE!

I’m going into this week with a feeling of apprehension. Thanks for allowing me to vent a little here. I appreciate you, and this is my therapy.

“Sometimes it seems your ever-increasing list of things to do
can leave you feeling totally undone.”
~Susan Mitchell and Catherine Christie, I’d Kill for a Cookie

Have you been through anything like this?

What advice do you have?

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Monday Mournings – Child Support Hula Hoops

Why Can’t Things Be Simpler?

Saturday, I went to the mailbox and found a letter from Child Support Services. I was excited. I thought maybe they had gotten things settled and payments would roll in anytime now. WRONG! It was a letter stating that I would not be receiving child support since my youngest child had now turned 18-years-old and was, as such, emancipated.

Well, yes, that may be true in most cases, but in Rory’s case it is not. Rory has missed so much school with her illness, that she receives Special Education Medical Home Teaching through the school district and has not yet attained her high school diploma. Because of this, I am eligible to receive child support for Rory until she gets the diploma or turns 19-years-old, whichever comes first.

There was an entire section of the child support application dedicated to this specific issue, which required special information that I provided. Of course, the letter arrived on Saturday, so I could do nothing until this morning, but sit around trying not to let it worry me too much…cough, cough, cough.

Do you ever wonder if there is some kind of stupid test for government employees, or if they have different people who read different parts of applications, but who can reject solely on their portion of it? And if you call trying to ask a question or get some help with something, they treat you like you are some kind of idiot.

With all of the paperwork I have had to fill out, documentation I have had to provide, money I have had to spend to get certified copies of things over the past two months, I feel like I have been jumping through hoops!

I should look like this

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But instead, I look like this

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When I called Child Support Services this morning, the lady took Rory’s school information and input it into our case. She said it should not be a problem, and that there was nothing further for me to do at this time. Yeah! Finally an easy fix…now if we could just start getting those checks!

I have an appointment on Thursday at the DMV to get my Driver’s License renewed…I hope that goes smoothly.

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Monday Mournings – A Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World

“Severe stress makes women age prematurely because stress causes the DNA in our cells to shrink until they can no longer replicate. So when we’re stressed we look haggard. This is just women not men.”

~Amanda (played by Cameron Diaz), The Holiday (2006)

Struggling with finances to make ends meet for Rory and me is difficult to say the least, but dealing with government agencies makes everything ten times worse. My court date with Christopher for temporary support isn’t until September 9th… can you believe that? What exactly are we supposed to do until then. Apparently, money does not constitute an emergency for a speedier court appearance.

Wednesday morning is my next step in the process of getting SSI for Rory. Hopefully that meeting will help Rory with her needs, and qualify her for further medical assistance–medications need to be paid for some how. Okay, enough griping…

On to things that make me happier!

Luke and I watched an old movie one night last week. We had a blast and were laughing so hard. Have any of you ever seen…

It’s A Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World (1963)

It’s A Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World…what a cast! This ensemble cast, featuring Spencer Tracy, Milton Berle, Sid Caesar, Buddy Hackett, Ethel Merman, Mickey Rooney, and more,  is a riot. The madcap adventure race to find hidden treasure was taglined as, “It’s The Biggest Entertainment Ever To Rock The Screen With Laughter!”

As Luke and I watched this movie, we got to wondering– With all of the remakes coming out of Hollywood these days, what stars would they cast in this film today? I would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions on this idea. Who knows, maybe some big-time Hollywood producer will see my little blog post and think it’s a great idea… Tee Hee!

Thanks to all of you who checked out the Link Parties / Blog Hops over the weekend. We had a great time be-bopping around the blogosphere.

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Monday Mournings

Last week, Christopher moved out of the house leaving Rory and I with no food and suddenly cut-off without warning of money (including the automatic deposit that went straight to my account every two weeks). This threw me into a whirlwind of trying to figure out what I needed to do in order to feed my child, NOW.

I found myself filing a case at Child Support Services for Child Support, and also doing court paperwork and filing for Spousal Support, (we had a long-term marriage of 23-1/2-years). These were not only time consuming, stressful, and not fun, but they also ate up my gas that I had so precious little of in my truck.

Child Support Services and the Court told me that I needed to file for a food program, as immediate need was required. After driving to the location to fill out more paperwork, I spoke with a man at the service window who told me it would be a 4-hour wait to see someone and get the paperwork started, OR I could go home and do it online. Why don’t they tell you that little tidbit over the phone?! Needless to say, I climbed back in the truck and high-tailed it home to spend about 5 more grueling hours gathering even more documentation and filling out yet another application. Of course, by the time I was finished, it was past 5 pm, so my application would not be looked at until the following business day. Thank God, it was Thursday night.

Friday morning I received a phone call at 10:15 AM telling me that I had an appointment at 1 PM to go over my application, and oh, by the way, you need to bring along additional documentation. I sped around the house going through files, raced to two banks, made phone calls, borrowed some money from a friend for gas, and flew out of the house for my 30-mile drive to my appointment. Phew…

I had to have a face-to-face interview so the lady on the other side of the desk could ask me questions that I had already answered on the online application. She took copies of my additional information, fingerprinted me, handed me a card with $200 on it, and sent me on my way home–four hours later in the height of rush-hour traffic in Southern California…oh yeah…

The good news was that I received some much-needed aid for Rory and me. The bad news for Christopher, at any rate, is that he will be responsible for paying it back (they will even garnish his wages if he does not).

Hopefully, this week will be less stressful. I have another appointment on Thursday with my new divorce attorney where she will help me file an amendment to my Response.

I would love to hear any tips on getting through this stuff with your sanity intact. I think the key for me right now is to remember to smile and laugh. Being down and depressed isn’t going to help anything.

Luke took me out Saturday night for Karaoke. We had a great dinner, I sang 5 songs, had lots of laughs, and the Cadillac Margarita really hit the spot after the week I’d had. Thanks, honey!

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